Dad’s advice to his daughter:
My child, no matter how strong you are, if you get married, marry someone who is “rich”.
1. First, marry someone who is “rich” in his own right. They never ask for money from anyone, just like my daughter. They always have their own way and are responsible for everything they do. They never look at other people’s property, because they believe that what is in their head will be in their hands, and they never have to be greedy for what does not belong to them.
2. Second, marry someone who is “rich” in character. They are generous, never regretting what they give to their children. They believe that their children deserve the best, because they love them, because they have given everything they have. Even though in love, giving does not expect anything in return, even though you do not ask or expect anything, but everything is the same, green trees always need watering to live, even though trees freely provide oxygen for us without hesitation.
3. Third, marry someone who is “rich” in tolerance. They understand that in this life, seeking perfection is the most impossible thing. Only patience, calmness, and understanding can make two souls want to cling to each other. If you do 9 things right, accidentally make 1 mistake but they always see that shortcoming and “talk about it over and over again”, perhaps, you need to find a suitable soul to connect with rather than clinging to someone who always rubs salt on your heart with their pettiness.
Finally, I want to tell you that in this life, having someone who loves you with all their heart is wonderful, but if you find it unsuitable, you should not make your life miserable. How many years of knowing each other, living together or getting to know each other, all are just numbers. What matters is compatibility, what matters is fate, come together for what, leave for that. Come together with the “wealth” that you and that person build. At that time, nothing can knock both of you down.
Love you,
Dad.
Life is impermanent, we owe each other love – A book by Gari, released in June 2024.